Thursday, January 21, 2010

Thank God for Good Friends


Last Thursday was a rough day for me. I hadn't slept much in a week, we are dealing with some family stress and I just didn't want to get out of bed.  After only getting 50 minutes of broken sleep from 3:30 AM on....I started to cry when the baby started crying at 7AM (20 min after I put her down).  It was the first time in a long time that I didn't want to get out of bed but I was running on EMPTY.  I wanted/needed a day off from being Mom. 

After a very teary morning...all 3 of us cried off and on all morning but it was mostly C...I called my best friend L.  Without hesitation she jumped in her car and came to my rescue. I just needed someone to hold the crying baby, someone to tell me that I was not a bad mom for wanting a break, someone to talk to.....I needed my best friend.  L was great, she took the crying baby and encouraged me to do something for myself.  I should have gone to bed but I am a horrible napper so I decided to spend some time with Z.

It was really nice to escape the crying and get out into the world.  Z and I ran some errands and then got him some lunch :)  I think he enjoyed having me to himself, that rarely happens these days.  We returned to a sleeping baby and though I was emotionally drained, I did feel a little better.  L works from home and despite being pregnant and having her own two children, she has offered to work from here a few times a month so that I can get some "ME" time.  Thanks L, I am so lucky to have you in my life!

That night was suppose to be my first night out since the baby was born.  I was exhausted and so I decided to cancel my plans.  S, L and all of the friends that I was suppose to go out with, did not like this decision.  They all put their "feet" down and insisted that I take a much needed break.  And so I went.....and I am so glad that I did.

It was nice to shower to go out,  I actually looked like a human being (not a zombie mommy).  As I drove away I realized that it was the first time I would be away from C for more than 2 hours!  The night was great...we laughed, caught up on each others lives and had a great time :)  Thanks girls, I needed it!

I returned home feeling refreshed and knew that I could handle another night without sleep (which is what I got).  This time instead of crying all night long, I took each waking in stride and tried to think of all that I have been blessed with.  I have a very helpful husband, who doesn't mind being up at 3AM with me, two beautiful children, a very supportive family and the best friends a girl could ask for. 

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18 comments:

Beth P. said...

Its the good friends and wonderful family that make everything worth it. I'm glad you have such a wonderful girlfriend who will help you out and a great group of friends who could see so clearly that you needed a break! Don't feel bad about wanting one - it is the least you can do for yourself!

blueviolet said...

What a wonderful friend you have! I'm so glad she let you get out and kind of recharge! :)

Sharon said...

What WONDERFUL friends you have!! I have had those days and it's so GOOD to have a bit of sane interaction!

This mommy thing is hard work, huh?!

Poolside with the Girls said...

Glad you got out for a bit. It's easy to get stuck on the hamster wheel. Hang in there...

MamaB said...

I'm so glad you have great friends that can come help and also push you to go out even when you don't feel like it. I'm sure that was exactly what you needed! I hope the family issues are getting better and Lil C gets back to sleeping for Momma! It is good to take time for yourself that makes you a better Mom in the long run!

Joy said...

Sometimes we (moms) have those days and it takes doing something out of routine to get over it. Glad you went out and are feeling better.

Connie Weiss said...

WHat a great friend! You're lucky to have her.

Hang in there...it gets better!

Jamie~ said...

I'm so glad you got out! Good thing for other mommy's out there. Someday you'll look back and actually miss these days, even the bad ones (or so I've been told.).

Deborah said...

Wow! What a gift from God good friends can be! So happy for you...

Mommy Lisa said...

Glad you found your joy! See that is why Jamie is right, you will miss these days when they are older!

Nicolasa said...

What great friends and family you have. It is wonderful to have the support and I am so glad you got out and were able to enjoy yourself. What I find even more amazing is your ability to know when you need a break and to let someone help you. Some people can't do that for themselves.

elenibags said...

I am so glad that you rallied and came out on Thursday, and that you ended up feeling better! Hope all is well, will talk soon! hugs!

Annie said...

Your post is great. I remembered when my girls were babies and their crying,ugh, Thanks God you had a supportive system (family and friends).

I am Lee-Ann... said...

What wonderful friends! I'm glad you had someone to help you out and felt better after some time away.

Tracie said...

I'm glad you have good friends close by. I remember the days when my kids were small. They weren't all easy.

Jamie @ Six Bricks High said...

What great friends! I'm so glad you decided to get out a bit. This mom thing sure can be tough.

jen said...

what a wonderful friend to have! you are so lucky to have her.
you deserve a break now and then ... it's just hard to remember that you can do that.
thinking of you.

Babe in Babeland said...

I'm so glad you had the support there you needed! YAY for best friends!! I miss my best friend...she moved away from NY a few years ago, and I STILL wish she was just a subway ride away...:-(

Two children is SUCH HARD WORK...I can't even imagine! Having one child is soooo difficult. Just hang in there! You're doing amazing.

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